Stimulus-Response: The Experiment Continues

[GoatGal]

I understand what you are all saying, and I agree.

However, I still feel angry.

Him announcing he won't be here is dumping extra work ON ME.

He knows that I am alone 24/7 and that the only time I can really get out for some human interaction is Fri and Sat.

I was making plans for Fri when he gave me his announcement.

I feel taken for granted and bullied.

He doesn't have to tell me "why", although for work/medical I would cancel my plans.

I do not want to cancel my plans because he feels like having a night off.

Am I just supposed to grin and bear it while he takes advantage of me?

I just want to be asked if I am available.
This is his responsibility as much as mine, yet I am the one stuck here day after day.

It is not fair and it it not OK with me.

Would it then be fine to announce to him that "I'm not going to be here Sat night, FYI", and expect HIM to drop everything to be there?


It works both ways.

I guess it's two different issues.

1. Him not being accountable to me. I understand it. It bothers me because I worry about what destructive things he might be doing. And lying to me about it.
But I get it: NOT MY SIDE OF THE STREET.

2. Being TOLD that I must do HIS work because he has other plans, even when it means I have to screw up my plans to do so.

No. I am not OK with number two.

The fact is, if he gave me a reason that outweighed my social plans, I would do it in a flash to help him out.

I think he has confused my willingness to be supportive and helpful with being his personal doormat.

All I'm asking for is TO BE ASKED.
Not taken for granted.

-----GGG