What to do when an EA involved?

[Hoju]

If your wife says she doesn't love you any more, is having an EA and doesn't seem interested in saving the marriage is it worth it to try marriage counselling? I do believe that if I asked her to go she would but I've read that in these cases it may do more harm then good as she will be unreceptive to what the counsellor is saying and will just use it as validation that the relationship is unsavable. I'm interested to hear what othershave to say about this situation.

Edit: I'm still waiting on the library for the DR book, so if it's covered in there I'm sorry.