The gifts were for you and for the kids. I thought they would get a kick out of it. It’s also nice that we can get along and I thought they should see that as well.
Finances are a challenge. Housing payment, the window needing to be replaced, continuing to provide for the children and all that entails. I realize this will be a lot to take on even after the dust has settled, and all but impossible for you to do so completely independently prior to that point. On my end I also have upcoming financial demands such as my legal fees, more sustainable living space, etc.
There are no specific solutions or expectations in mind at this time because if at all possible these are decisions I feel should be reached collaboratively. My dad is still willing to play a role in this to some extent. He’d like to see what we can come up with on our end. If we find a proposal that shows we’re both doing everything we can on our own I know he is open to helping bridge the gap and avoid unnecessary struggles.
This is something I’d be willing to sit down and discuss. We wouldn’t necessarily have to commit to a solution right away. It might be a good idea to just listen to each other’s thoughts and concerns, discuss alternatives, reflect for a time, and only then reconvene and narrow down to a specific course of action.
I have put this conversation on hold because nothing needed to be changed immediately. I felt it was a good idea to have a couple of months of relatively smooth sailing under our belt to establish a foundation of mutual trust and good will prior to tackling further challenges. I know that even with the best intent this can be difficult to maintain through the process as concessions must inevitably be made on both sides in all areas, not just financially. I’ll reiterate that I’m very appreciative of how we’ve navigated through to this point. Our ability to succeed in this is a priority for me as this isn’t just a onetime transaction, but will be an ongoing partnership through our children’s lives.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
