In regards to above email:
-I followed my DB's advice for the gifts. It was for my growth, my kids, and trying to keep goodwill between me and STBX. (We all know I hope for more but don't expect that...this looks grim)
-for money, I am currently staying in a friends basement. The idea was that she was going to get the D finalized in hopes of childcare assistance, go back to work, and get CS and alimony. Currently I am living on as close to nothing as possible until she can go back to work. I was looking at getting my own place soon (oct 1?) and my dad said he'd help me get through until the D is finalized to make sure we were all ok.

Talked to IC today. At some point I WILL need to talk about $, and though I'm not trying to make power plays the fact is if she asks me to leave I need to take care of myself and she needs to be able to do the same. I wasn't prepared for this just yet. Suggestions? I'll draft a version but could use ideas.


Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15