HopeTex, I'm so sorry, she was just bad, bad, bad.
Your responses seemed calm and non-combative to me, affirming her feelings but firmly setting your boundaries. I doubt I could've been as steadfastly patient as you were.
Of course, you have every right to stay in your own home. She has no right to expect you to leave just because she decided you needed to leave. She was unwilling to work with you; she was threatening you. It seemed like she was projecting her thoughts on to you, especially here:
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Like maybe you really want a D but don't want to be the one to file so you are pushing me to the brink where I have to file for D?
(I just got the "you pushed me to file" bit, too. Very sucky.)
She certainly seemed to expect that you would roll over and do as she said. Perhaps she hoped for a scene but you didn't give her that satisfaction. Bravo. You handled it like a man: strong and gentle.
Maybe some of the old-timer pros here will weigh in with a different opinion--I am just a newbie at all this-- but I think you handled this awful conversation just fine.
M:54, H:55 T:33, M:27 12/13 BD: EA 01/14 BD: PA, H leaves 03/14 H & OW break up 05/14 H says he will file for D 08/14 H initiates D 09/14 H wants to R 12/14 Still bungling our way through R
