Sorry you've been down in the family trenches. That's where all the muck is thickest!
Sounds like you've grown a lot, and can see your interactions with a fresh perspective. Good for you for rising above it all as best you can.
They might not like it, but on some level they've got to respect it! They're just humans; warts and all, doing the best they can with what they've got to work with at the time.
Family. Might as well love 'em, cause we're STUCK with them!
-----GGG PS: Happy to see that people came to your rescue before I got here!
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?