H is out of the house

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twin,

I'm not gonna lie: I think, to put it mildly, most of us here who have been following your sitch from day one have serious reservations about your H. I know you do, too.

But it's your life. Your family. And it seems your heart is still at least a little open to him.

Might I suggest, while you're making suggestions to H, that the FIRST step would be for H to write a no-contact letter to OW that YOU approve? Because last I checked, he was still texting her. Until he's ready to admit to HER - and to YOU - that he wants to repair his M ... and end all contact with her ... then him going to an IC is pretty much a waste of time.