1. My initial motive was not to glean info, but I can't deny the fact that how he reacted ultimately would provide info.
2. Yup, who knows, maybe he could do it now even though he apparently couldn't initially.
3. No, but I am also counting on him rejecting me if he were involved with her again. As you said, maybe not
4. Yes
5. Probably not
6. No
I think I have my answer
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14