1 step forward, 1000 steps back - part 4

[Train]

1. Are you considering pursuing him for sex to try to glean information? Because that's what ^^^ sounds like.

2. My H, when he left the 1st time, seemed to not be able to "do" 2 at a time. The 2nd time? He carried on a PA while having sex with me until I busted the A. Men like sex. And when it's about sex, they tend to be able to compartmentalize and act outside of the character WE "know" them to have.

3. Are you willing to live in an open M? I wouldn't judge you if you were; many people on these boards have been willing. But my own conviction was I would not live in an open M with a third party. And until I had proof that H's A was done, it would really weaken my boundary if I had sex with him (thus condoning an open M).

4. Am I remembering correctly that you two ML before OW moved to town? I could be thinking of someone else's sitch.

5. Would you be emotionally ready to put yourself out for sex and be rejected?

6. Would you be emotionally ready to have sex and not hear from your H afterward?

I know you will do what you feel is the right thing to do.

I think sex as a 180 when an OP may still be involved is risky business. But that's just me.