Honestly, I suspect H would reject me if he were having sex with OW. Our sex life had slowed down quite a bit before he got involved with OW. During the A, it came to a halt and for the first time in our 10 year relationship H started rejecting me. He just does not do 2 well.

So I kind of agree with MrBond. It would be a 180 since I used to reject him a lot and I think it's low risk if we actually do it and probably a strong sign that he's not sleeping with her. The real challenge for me would be if he rejects me, then I'll be even more freaked that he's gotten back with OW but again without real hard evidence.

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14