Nitty in a Nutshell (Help! I'm in a nutshell!)

[Nitty]

Thanks, Caliguy. Worrying about his feelings is what I always did best during our marriage. I guess I've been fired from that job, LOL.

I'm doing so much better than I did when all this started. Eating and sleeping, GAL, enjoying myself with friends. Detaching, though... that's been hard.

I'm already a better person. After 8 months of affirming and validating my ass off, I've learned some valuable communication skills that will come in handy during extremely stressful situations, like, say, during a Zombie Apocalypse.

I am a stronger person, more willing to look at what I do and understand why I do it. I've come to understand how resilient I am. I have a better relationship with God.

Unfortunately, I'm less willing to put up with nonsense. It seems to me that most of DBing during a MLC is putting up with nonsense. Sorting through gas lighting and trickled truths. Crap like that.

Yesterday Mr. Gritty sent me many texts about an argument he had with S23. I waited 14 hours, then sent him an email in response to answer his questions about S23 (who is still living with me).

I kept it impersonal but factual, and didn't reply when he tried to keep the convo going. As recently as last month I would've responded until he stopped, so yay me. (Back then I thought I was doing a 180, because prior to the BD, he always complained that I never responded to his texts).

Got one text today, Mr. Gritty telling me he renewed a subscription. I didn't respond at all.

I haven't told S25 that his dad filed for the Big D. I figure it will come out eventually.

I've been wrestling with the idea of paying for DB coaching, but it's so expensive. Mr. Gritty put us both on a strict allowance (he's got a rude awakening ahead about money). And lately I admit to wondering if I want to get back with Mr. Gritty. Certainly not the way he is now.

I guess these forums are DB Coaching Lite.