Stimulus-Response: The Experiment Continues

[GoatGal]

Nitty,


It just goes to show you the depth of their screwed up thinking.

My H always vented about other people who cheated on their spouses, particularly males who cheated on his female co-workers/friends.
He ALWAYS also said that no matter what:

"You end your relationship before you start a new one. That's just how it's done."
"Never SH*T where you eat!" (Don't ever mess around at work.)
"If you ever cheated on me, I would divorce you and never look back."

He had nothing but awful things to say about the cheaters, how those women were gems, that they were dogs, had no loyalty, didn't know how good they had it, etc., etc., etc....

Of course, our Hs are SPECIAL! The rules do not apply to these special people!

They are operating under unique circumstances which make it all OK.
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Gubu will not speak to any of his male friends, and hasn't since this happened.

I guess because they are up his butt trying to tell him that he is insane, that Goat Gal is the best thing that ever happened to him and he's the luckiest guy in the world.
They see me for who I am, and think he has lost his marbles.

I've run into a few of them since this started, and since the divorce notice was published in the paper.

They called me, asking what was up? What was GUBU thinking?
I said: "Why don't you ask HIM?"
And they have continually said: "He will not return our calls."

They check up on me from time to time (nice) and continue to say the same.
GUBU will not talk to them.
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These guys are all his age, all divorced at least once, some more than once.
They know what they're talking about.

They see he's making a mess of things--but again:
In GUBU's mind---HE is "SPECIAL".

I ran into one guy at the veterinarian's office a few weeks ago.
He asked how it was going, ended up with me in tears (didn't help that I was there with yet another old dog who I ended up putting to sleep a week later. Alone. Again.)

He hugged me and said:
'MY GOD! You are so thin... are you sure you're OK? Does he KNOW you are like this?"
"I'm about ready to go punch GUBU in the mouth and knock some sense into him. I don't know how he can do this to you. You don't deserve it, not one bit."


I just asked him please not to say anything to GUBU, that he wouldn't hear it anyway, he'd think I was talking ill of him, and besides, he thinks my pain and weight loss are just "drama" to make him feel "guilty".
(At least that's what he's said in the past.)
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I think perhaps now he's starting to see it differently, but that would be an expectation, and you know what we DBers say about THOSE.

GUBU only talks to people who support his decision.
They can support it because they only know his side and THEY DON'T KNOW ME.
And they are not in a position to offer advice: i.e.: HIS EMPLOYEES.
There is not ONE PERSON who knows ME at all who thinks he is doing anything close to rational!


---GGG