ye21, you're twisting things around like you did in your own situation. When everyone was trying to help you, you disappeared.
"You both have to improve things, and you cant take over your shoulders all the responsability of what happened,"
No one said that he had to take ALL of the responsibility. Just his part.
"because will you really change what you can't control?"
Actually you can change things that are not in your control. That's what the whole basis of DBing is all about. Change yourself to change the dynamic of the situation. Sometimes your changes affect negative reactions as well as positive ones.
"Would you change what you like about you in order to have someone by your side?"
NO ONE said that he had to change what he liked about himself. No one is perfect. He was just being encouraged to change the things that his W had issues with that may have been bad habits to begin with. For example, if a wife complains that her husband doesn't spend enough time with his kids, then you spend more time with the kids. Simple as that.
You didn't understand those basics. You may think this is picking on you, but the fact is that you are giving out the wrong information that will lead others to potentially fail in their situations.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
