ye21 never did understand the impact that his lying and non-support of his W did to the relationship. He changed from accepting responsibility for his part to it being his W's fault for not sticking with him. But if you don't change, why would the other person want to still be with you if the problems that drove you apart are still there?

Easy to say that without knowing the hole story, you are not the first one to think so however I am a victim of emotional abuse despite the fact that I changed many things about by myself.

Now back to the post of U-turn and continue in the same dinamic, work on DBing for you and be honest with yourself, all of us do things that have consequences, but walking in eggshells its not a sign of a healthy relationship.
You both have to improve things, and you cant take over your shoulders all the responsability of what happened, because will you really change what you can't control? Would you change what you like about you in order to have someone by your side?
I havent posted my whole sitch here but check this out, today I am sure that happiness is a choice and not a mood, you have to go through hell to be able to appreciate the changes you do in your life. Change what YOU dont like in your life but for you, not to have your S come back because it will not make you happy at the end.
Its fine to struggle with all this situation its actually a natural proccess but you are not alone, to love another person its fine and be with that person its great as well, not a good move if to be with that person you have to stop being yourself wink

When the student its ready, the teacher will appear...
Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me."
Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.