WAW not admitting to affair #3

[25yearsmlc]

---She hates being told what to do. if she is refusing to admit to the A, I am not sure if it is because she does not want to give me the satisfaction of being "right"

would it give you that "satisfaction"? I mean, really?

or more that she is just not ready to say anything.

this^^ is at least one of the reasons, but I'd bet there are several.

If the A were going underground, I would think she would have only done a few of these things, but not all of them. Also, MA is a no fault state, so whether she has an A or not does not matter in a D.

So Legally, there is no reason for her to lie about it. But I bet she does not think the "road home" would be smoother or paved, at all, were she to admit it.

Please see her POV on this b/c she likely fears this ^^^ big time, the whole "throw it in my face if I ever tell him", etc.

At times like this, it's easy to forget that this is a traumatic thing for all, I'm sure.

Ponder how much harder it would be ((( OR seem to be to her))) to come back after admitting an A?


Here are the list of "positive changes"
- said she does not want to move to NYC...said "NYC would be great for us but not sure about it for kids"

^^^ Huge insight, CHANGE, and placement of kids over HER career/personal wishes of recent times...

- commented "who is the idiot who takes a job on a whim"
- doing a day trip today when she easily could stay over

=Choosing YOU/Family, NOT OM...

- has invited me to go with her to yoga a few times this past week

- has been proactively texting and emailing me the past few days
Reaching out. Initiating.

- is talking about the future as a couple and as a family


DING DING DING!!!!! Uh, YES that is what we call a POSITIVE. Yikes...want it written in letters in the sky? Sure sure, I know you're not out of the woods by a long shot.

But YES these are positives. No question.

- has been more "affectionate", touching my arm, etc. No kissing or anything yet
- looked into yoga classes for us to go to together when we are on vacation

Impressed...

As I said before, this^^ is a list of a lot of positives. This is getting very hopeful.

Good GOOD job...