What an evening for you! I'm sorry you don't feel so supported. That's tough. I understand about how you change and feel differently around others now. This mlc thing totally changes us and how we see things. I don't have anything to really help with the situation, but I will send good thoughts in your direction. I have to say, the other night I said a special prayer, just for you. The next day is when I read you heard from NY. If it's meant to be, you will know it. I am only a few hours away from Watertown. I am pretty familiar with the area since my parents are both from even further north! I have lots of family up there and we have property on 1,000 Islands. With that said... my aunt lives in Watertown and she lived in Ohio for 30 years. She still works for Cleveland Clinic, just from home. Her daughter lives in Cleveland still.
Hang in there with the fam. I hope it works out with the dog. Maybe you could drop him off at your stbx stepdad's and your mom will watch him there????