my x told me I pushed her into sleeping with her boss, I was abusive, I didnt support her, I did this and that, etc etc.
its called Making The Monster.
she remembers only the bad, ignores the good, exaggerates when necessary, rewrites history if needed to make you into The Monster. it justifies her actions. and wins sympathy from those around her. its her method of deflecting any of the responsibility.
what you remember doesnt matter.
you're busy Making The Maiden. you're doing the opposite, forgetting the bad, ignoring what you've done, what she's done, etc to the point you believe you had a wonderful M and theres no reason for her to leave.
Walk away.
this is a sale you cant close while pushing, the only hope is if you take the offer off the table. offer ends at PA.
I understand you want to save your M. and it s*cks because you cant. It sounds to me as if its gotten to the point where she'll stay in the R with OM just to prove herself.
waiting for her to end it on her own wont work. why would it? she's got the best of all worlds and after shoving her affair in your face over and over you're still there, she knows you wont go anywhere.
W- " well I am sorry I am not ready to end communication with OM and you can't make me"
she wont. and you cant. but you can end your involvement with her. and move on. its not as bad out there as you think, and its much much better than where you are now.
I realized this a while ago. ITs just that I am in a strange situation. We live in the same house we are both on the mortgage. There is nothing I can do to get her out of the house. she refuses to leave.
If I 180 her and ignore her she tells me I am hurting my Sons...
I am thinking of telling her I am done, that I will but her out of the house.
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
