afraid I have waited too long #4

[nit84]

I need some help with this.

I don't know if it is wise to do or not, but it may be the best thing for ME.

My W says she intends on moving out of the house. I think it is with OM but even if she lives alone she still intends to move out.

I ask her when and she says when this is done referring to the division of property.

MY issue is and has been for the last few weeks is W is staying out till 1:00 most nights not coming home on a weekend night at all or very late around 4:00 am.

I suspect that OM has been asked to leave or has been kicked out of his GF, W or whatever she is place and has his own joint now.

That is why W is out so late now.

Or she has rented a place and he is living there till she can move out from our home to be with him.

Or she has rented a place and is fixing it up in anticipation of moving in.

All things I have no control over or maybe don't even care to know.

I am thinking about in a calm manner, because I have resigned myself to the fact that this is happening and not much I can do about it except continue to be a person only a fool would leave, suggesting to the W that why doesn't she just move into the place she will be going to eventually anyway now instead of later.

During our Sunday conversation, she asked for an air conditioner that is in the garage, I said sure why doesn't your new place have air? she said no.

I believe she has a place in mind or it is one of the above suggested scenarios.

Without accusing her of wrong doing just empathizing with her by saying "This has to be tough on you coming home late every night because you feel like you don't want to be here any longer, Which I understand, wouldn't it be better to just get it over with and move now?"

Or something to that effect.

I'm not sure how I will feel when she moves out so I might as well feel the emotions sooner than later.

Is this a wise thing to do or am I not thinking clearly.

I have had patience and can continue to have patience but maybe I am looking to find a new way of dealing with this mess while still practicing DB.

Help appreciated