But have you been practicing the meditation and visualization techniques that she does with you, on your own?
What you could do is to put those techniques in small ways first and do them often. After awhile, those small actions will become habit for you. But you have to start small and then they'll be real.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.