The "we" she is talking about is not you and W, it is her and OM.
She can't control you, You made to choice to expose so now you are living with it(not necessarily in a bad way).
She will blame you for everything so who cares if she is worried about OMW? are you?
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
