Wife dropped the bomb; doing in house separation

[HopeTex]

Ok, we have some movement. Wife just texted me:

"Want to do a check-in conversation either tonight or tomorrow night."

I respnded:

"Sounds good. Either night works for me."

So good chance that tonight we will have our first real R conversation in about a month. Fortunately I have my first call with DB coach Laurie this afternoon, maybe she can help me "prepare."

Would love some thoughts and support from vets today.

I plan to go in with an open mind, with a healthy sense of the detachment I am slowly growing, and with no "agenda" for the conversation.

My goals are to :

Listen intently to what she says.
Validate her in my listening.
Stay calm and detached (in the DB sense of the world).
Do not pursue or temperature check.
Do not push an agenda; rather let her guide the conversation and leave the onus on her to propose a change in the current situation; Keep the mindset that I am a happy person with a life, even in the current M situation; I am not in any desperate need of an immediate change in the R situation to "make me happy".
If she asks whether I am still committed to the M, I will respond simply that I am.
If she asks about positive changes she is seeing in me, I will give a brief answer that I am continuing in the personal development I started a few years back, and my recent focus is on realizing that I am responsible for and capable of my own happiness.
I will not inquire about where she is with R, what she is working on personally, etc.
I will not inquire whether she is "commited to working on the M."

My hope is that she is seeing positive changes and she is feeling less pressure and more space due to my increasing detachment and GAL. My hope is that she will not want to move forward right now with a formal S or divorce, but rather will want to continue with what we are doing for a while longer (in-house separation, giving each other space, etc) or perhaps even begin to reengage in working on the R in some way. (That is a hope, but not an expectation; and I do not need that progress with W and R in order for me to be a happy person.) If she does express an interest in reengagement/reconciliation I will express my interest in that, but I wont rush in and over-pursue.

There is some chance that she will say she is ready to move forward with S, or even D. My plan is to simply listen to what she says and validate her. Stay calm and detached and self-validated. Be curious. In terms of responding to her, I plan to stick with "I am still committed to the M, and to continuing to make positive changes in myself that make me a happier and healthier person."

If she pushes a particular plan and pushes for a response from me (ex: "I want us to go talk to lawyers next week, will you do that?" or "I want us to physically separate for a year, with me getting a job and moving into a rental house nearby, etc.") I think I will just validate her and make sure I understand her proposal, and tell her I will consider it and get back to her after I have had a chance to think about it. That will give me time to think and get feedback from the DB Vets before I say or do something counter-productive.

Would love any feedback.