I am with you in wondering about the waiting thing. It feels right to me to wait and to be honest that I'm waiting. Yet Wiley raises some valid points.
What Laurie said about security perked up my ears. My H once said when I asked him what he truly wanted: "security". In a way maybe I've tried to be that for him, knowing he needed it?
Something else she said reminded me of something my C said: that I was fighting for my M and OW was in reality, all excuses eliminated, fighting to break up someone's M-- and to keep that in the back of my mind. Never knew what to do with that, except remember it.
I find the Christian perspective to be very interesting, as I study Buddhism myself. I have some close Christian friends and my C is Jewish. Yet I often find we are all on the same page emotionally and ethically, though we are all practicing different faiths.
Keep up being the amazing person you so clearly are.
