I think this is partly out of compassion for others, but I also think that it's likely a way of (subconsciously?) rationalizing your objection to him seeing other people. If it's harmful to someone else, then you aren't against it just because it affects you and your family. It makes his behavior more objectively wrong, not just a personal offense to you.
I may have missed an update in your posts, but did you communicate this boundary to him yet? If not, I would sit on it for a while before doing so. As Meghan said, it's important to know not only the boundary but also what you will do when the boundary is crossed. You don't necessarily have to communicate the consequence to him, but I think you will need to be prepared to act if the boundary is violated. If you're not ready to do that (either because you don't know what the consequence will be, or because you're not quite ready to take that step), then I don't think it makes sense to lay the boundary yet. It will be bark with no bite. I do think that you should communicate the boundary to him at some point, though.
Yes! The bolded part, awesome. And it's not just you Maybell, it's most of us. I still struggle with I'm Worthy, dammit!
About the boundary, I'm not sure which one we're talking about here but (long week and it's only Weds)as I said about the dating issue, if you won't file, why bring it up.
Let go.
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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
