Ox- " well I refuse to live in an open marriage I am not willing to share my wife with an OM"
W- " well I am sorry I am not ready to end communication with OM and you can't make me"
Ox,
After months here, 500 posts by you, THOUSANDS of responses to you (many, many of which are saying the same things over and over) . . . it really comes down to this. ^^^
An open marriage is either a dealbreaker for you -- a Boundary of Personal Integrity -- or it isn't.
If it is, then she is violating it, and furthermore she is telling you she's going to CONTINUE to violate it. So you must end the marriage.
If it isn't, and you are willing to continue this dysfunctional dance the two of you have learned to waltz, in some vain hope that she'll "snap out of it" someday and become monogamous again ... then that's OK too (we'll all probably strongly disagree with you, perhaps even withdraw our advice, but it's your life, really -- you have to live with its consequences).
So is that really a boundary, or a "geeIwishyouwouldn't" ??
It's really that simple. Not EASY by any means . . . but very simple. Your wife has given you clarity that very, very few of us ever get on here -- ever.
The ball's now squarely in your court, brother. What are you going to do?
