I think the dinner date - since it's with the kids and for your birthday - would be perfectly fine! I think you have your detaching and expectations in check and don't look at this as anything more than an opportunity to show the new Sam.
Sounds like you're doing an INCREDIBLE job, Sam!
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
