OK people not sure what to do! I tried to talk to my D14 last night about where she wants to live but I just couldn't do it! I feel so bad for her! She just hangs out all day and reads and watches TV and texts. I told her that since she will be going back to school soon, we should do something fun this week. Go to amusement park or hiking, anything she wants to do. I told her to bring a friend and they can even stay over if she wants. So far I've gotten nothing back. Just a "Yeah, I'll think about it". I'm worried about it as over the last couple years her mom wouldn't let her friends come over the house and my D got used to not being able to have her friends come over. Looking back, I really wish I hadn't let my W have so much power! I should have just over ruled her but I let her get away with so much crap. I'm a little worried that my D14 may be more affected by things than I thought! She just stays up really, really late watching TV and on her phone and Kindle reading. Doesn't say much to me (I wish her sister was still around, she was much more open and talkative when she was here too). Much of this is normal teenager stuff but I know that she is unhappy about the D.
Maybe she senses that I need to talk to her about something I really don't want to? I just am dreading having to ask her about this but it is something that has to happen. I will not allow my W to just have her way when I don't think it is right. She had to have her "freedom" and doesn't care about how it hurts those around her and unless I find a way to stop her, she will just continue hurting my D14 as well.
Right now I really don't like my W at all. The hugeness of her selfishness has really been hitting home lately. Even before she left, for a few years she never seemed to care about much except her work and her friends from work, being a part of the "in" group at her job, working all day with these people and then texting with them all night (she once said when I asked why she felt the need to do that,that she didn't "..want to miss anything fun or important" that the other people at work were talking about) she is just so fixated on being part of the group at work but see's no problem in tearing her family, the group that really means the most in life, apart.
Well, I can't avoid this talk with D14 any longer. I will need to do this tonight when I come home from work for sure. I'm so worried about her. She has always been sensitive, much more so than my older D, and she is hurting inside, I know that. It's up to me to keep her steady as she sure as heck can't count on her mother. In fact, I'm going to ask her about going to C when I talk about where she would rather live. Whether her mom backs her going or not doesn't matter, it may be what she needs right now!
And to top it off now I have another (registered) letter from the IRS! UGH!!
