U-turn bro , i can see you are starting to question the DB way . Dont do it . I did the same thing . When I didnt feelthat DBing was giving me the results i Wanted then i started to question it . Howerver , Mlp is right ( I agree with alot she has to say )this is a time issue . Keep up with your DBing it does work for you especially > Its really starting to work for me after a couple months .

Having said that I like Sandi s list but i have tweaked it a little for my own sitch . I also believe that you should tweak the whole DB strategy to fit your own personal sitch . The hand holding , if she wants it ,give it to her , say goodnight to her just nothing more . These things in my opinion are not against DB practices but rather in sync with DB . They are showing her you care and still love her and are open to making things work

i think your doing a great job. But look after yourself too bro because shes not going to . Not right now anyway . Also dont think I have written off my Marriage because ive been talking and spending time with other women , it has actually been theraputic for me and i haven t cheated

Me 45 W 45
Son 16 Son 14
Married 23 together 27
W threatened sep several times
W still at home
A discovered Mar 17 2014
A ended DEC 2 ( skeptical )