Last night's counseling session was good. I told wife that we would see how it went looking for an appointment. The session was about moving forward but trying to build a friendship. This counselor knows I want to reconcile and knows she does not use very careful to make subtle suggestions to her on how to better our relationship as friends. When he would see her body language change he would pause really knowing the fact that he knows this is not to reconcile but simply to be up to move forward as parents. He's being very careful but is offering solutions that on the surface appear to be moving toward what she wants while at the same time trying to repair this relationship and give a solutions. I felt good about the session and as we were leaving she paused and looked at me and said so do you want to come back what you think? We booked another session. He said he realizes there's probably a lot of contempt and simply going through the motions of living together his parents. He wants us to work on communicating about things we joy like we used to. Thus setting homework to talk for an hour this time instead of 45 minutes. This morning things were busy but she posits long enough to look at me and ask when we can talk about the settlement. It seems like every move we make towards positive she wants to talk about divorce. I told her I would have a few things for her this weekend we could sit down and talk. I am scared and I told her this the other night chat I broke down simply said I was just scared. I explained what I meant by that nailed down a few things however I feel like that was backsliding. I realize I've been doing the one 80s and being happy and going about things but it is making her angry because she feels like because I'm being happy and sticking around and being helpful that I'm ignoring the fact that she wants a divorce. How can I actively while living at home with a small child move forward so that she doesn't feel this way. Mr. Bond I know you said go ahead and sign the papers if you need someone. I don't need anyone I want her and I'm willing to do what I need to do I'm simply asking for help from everyone here because I'm at a loss. I feel like I am a fish in a pond full of Nowater. I keeper sorting to reading BB and DR but failed to see how some of the supplies of my time. Not sure what I can actively do other than just be patient and my panic. I've read other threads as they pop up here and see that there are a lot of that's chiming in to help people. Not sure what else I can say here.
Me43/WAW43..M 4y..S1 11/S2 4..Bomb2/2014..Dfile 5/2014..Settlement signed 8/20/14..D final 8/29/14 I moved out 10/10/14..WAW got D she wanted. I wanted R. No waiting,just no boundaries in her way.