Also, I still don't want to go to dinner tonight. I haven't had a break from the kids in 2 1/2 weeks. D11 was rough yesterday and I want to rest from that. I don't want to say yes to every invitation, I don't want to interfere with the kids' time with their dad. On hearing they were having dinner tonight and spending this weekend with him, S8 said, wow, we're getting a lot of Dad time this week. Which hurt a little.

Will not going to dinner after laying that boundary look pushy, controlling, or manipulative?


Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.