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Thanks, Lisa. Yes I picked up that you were questioning things (whether you want the R even). I'll be curious to hear how things go with your new approach.

My biggest difficulty is that I rarely get the opportunity to BE light and friendly around him. There's been close to zilch interaction (not even texts). The few conversations we've had since he left, he's ended up steering the conversation towards R talk or rather practical issues related to R (closing accounts etc). I'm being friendly enough but it's just all too serious and practical. Funnily enough, this was one of his complaints about our M - and here he is making it this way.

So I think you are right, I may need to find a way to reach out in some small ways. Maybe around an activity rather than a conversation. I don't think we're ready for some sort of social outing but maybe there is a way to ask him for help around the house or something.

Anyone out there tried anything like this?