1st post. Long but please read, help!

[MrBond]

Maybe I'm missing something here. Did you actually read the books?

A 180 means to change a behavior that your spouse didn't like or that was detrimental to your M. If your W didn't have a problem with you playing pool, what does it matter if you played or not? If you played and ignored your kids while doing so, then you need to take that into consideration.