Ox, dude, drop the rope. You're locked in some sick dance of dysfunction with your W. You're just going round and round. Can't you see it? I think she enjoys jerking your chain and you're not going to make any progress on yourself or with her until you man up and drop her. Stay in your lane and leave her alone. You're a salesman, right? What if you knew you weren't going to close on having a successful M with W unless you totally stopped caring what she was doing or who she was with, no need to be mean, just all business. If you knew you could close if you did that for six months could you do it? Would you?