Saving my marriage by Focusing on me (Part 3)

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So here is one I bet no one has ever heard before.

W- " I never intended for the EA to become a PA but when you told me that an EA is as bad as a PA I figured what the hey..."

Or another one

W- " you were not treating me well you called me a beatch etc et long before my EA...."

Ox- " well did you ever think that it was in response to all the emotional abuse you dished at me?"

W- " don.t go there don't you go there, you should only know what you put me through"


Ox- " well I refuse to live in an open marriage I am not willing to share my wife with an OM"
W- " well I am sorry I am not ready to end communication with OM and you can't make me"

Ox---" I am not trying to make you do anything "

And on and on...
Then the excuse was S21 moved home so we did not have time for us..blah blah blah blah...

It seems like everything is my fault nothing is her fault...even the A is my fault!

The MC pointed out some issues when I saw her individually last night. She pointed out multiple flaws in W's logic and faults deep within the OM...I was shocked until I found out she met OM.

So now that I laid down my boundaries to my WS she tells me she's not ready to decide but she's not leaving me, the kids or the house and I can't make her..