Then she said she thought we were separated for an entirely different reason.
I said I didn’t care what she thought. I was still hurt. She needed to realize how much she hurt me when she yelled. I wasn’t getting over it.
Then she exploded.
What the heck, right?
No, not what the heck. Have you read any of the very detailed, and invaluable responses that you have gotten from vets here? Perhaps if you read there very sage advice, and then re-read your own post, you will have a better understanding of your W's POV. It doesn't sound like you've read or understood their feedback to you. I actually envy a bit the amount of attention you are getting from vets, given that it doesn't seem like any of it has sunk in.
If you want to get a D, do nothing different. If you want to improve your M, YOU will have to DO something that works. Can you imagine how else you could have responded to your W when "she said she thought we were separated for an entirely different reason"? What are some other possible responses you could have had? How might you have responded if you were trying to build a better M?
