Thank you both for your advice! I think you're right. I need to pull back a little bit. It's going to feel like such a huge setback if I don't see him for a week or more, though! I need to get over that, I think.
And Lisa, you're right -- I am lucky for that, and for everything else that he's doing. I try to remind myself of that daily so that I don't try to push for more. He really is trying, in his own way.
And the good news is -- I haven't blown it (yet). We had coffee today and talked for over an hour. There were some tense moments, but overall I think it was productive. H said that he is enjoying the time we spend together when we don't have any conflict, but he would like us to spend less time talking about the R. (Done!) H said that he had been thinking and he would like to try the new MC I found -- partly because he feels like the "PTSD" of what happened with our old MC would keep me from being comfortable there (he BD'ed in a counseling session) and partly because he thinks we need to try a different approach. He was guarded and careful not to make any promises, but said that he is still worried that we won't make it and that it would upset him if we don't. I'm feeling good that he's willing to open up to me, if nothing else.
But yes, I will take your advice and pull back now!
