barely holding on - 2

[u-turn]

I guess my questions were more about DBng and less about what I want to do. The way I would have handled this prior to DBng, would be to find out more, try to get a time line, tell her what I want.

Then with DBng, now it's about time and space and detaching. I can't make her do anything. Don't pressure her because it will surly drive her further away.

I know I might sound like a broken record, but I am feeling confused about the methods. I know it is my choice, I am just trying to understand what I am up against.

If I said I opened up a conversation with W to talk about the boundaries with the OM that she has just told me wasn't a factor, I will likely get a backlash from her and probably others here. I am trying to get that backlash here before I do this. Believe it or not, I am taking the advice here to heart and do follow it.

I know what my goals are and what I want.

And I know that my goals and what I want may ultimately be much different than her goals and what she wants.