[gan]

Thanks, Elsa. Yes, on thinking it through I tend to think that it was good to let him know that the path back home would be an "easy" one if he chose it. I don't regret it this morning (which is always a good litmus test).

I'm do feel a bit more sad this morning. I just don't know what to do to get us into different territory. It seems like I need to try something different - NC for 2 months seems to have done naught to his perspective on things. I suppose I need to wait and see if this meet up changes the course of events in any way…but I'm doubtful.

I'd really love it if folks could weigh in. Going dark seems moot when he's also gone dark and not asking about me. We just don't have reason to be in contact unless we want it (no kids, etc). I want it…but I have not been initiating so to give him the space that he asked for and not to pursue. What else can I try?