Well you said clear.... Very little work to recover yourself, guess what imagine that you can have your relationship back, but you still the same. Is that what you want? I rather stay single that in a relationship that gives me nothing productive. Maybe you are looking in others for the love that you are denying to yourself....
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.