barely holding on - 2

[u-turn]

Sandi, my thought process doesn't work as quickly as some people's, I have questions about this from a couple days ago.

The answer she gave about no OM (b/c he will never leave his family) must have hurt you. Not exactly her saying it was her choice! But that may be close to the truth as you will have for the moment. Seeing OM at work will feed her EA.
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Sandi-
I don't know what to do about this. Do I dig further? Do I ask what she means by this and what she is committed to? Do I question this not being a decision that she made only circumstances? Do I ask about ending the EA.

I think the answer to these are NO. But then you ask "how long are you willing to be in an open marriage?" and I say I don't accept it.

I'm conflicted with the DB techniques and my situation.

39. If there is an OW/OM in the picture, don't focus on them. BE the better choice, which means being a spouse only a fool would leave.

Does the mean don't focus or don't bring up the topic? Let the topic sit in silence and be patient? Wait for her move? Continue Limbo?

Is it a matter of only detaching and PMA and GAL and patience right now or is there something I am missing?