Thanks LT, Drugs and alcohol aren't something I need to worry about with my W at this point, at least not with her using them. I am concerned about my D14 as she will not only be going to a much larger school than she ever has but from past experience, my W will be working late quite often leaving her alone after school which is a bad time for getting into trouble! My W doesn't 'believe" in IC and has refused to agree to the girls going. It is her idea that D doesn't hurt the kids, it's all in how the parents behave. I think for my W that means how she thinks we should behave, not what I think.
When I went to my lawyer at first and we spoke about the case, he was sure it would be easy as I explained to him that my W was going to let me have the house, that she was still at home and contributing to paying the bills, etc. I explained to him that the number one thing for me was what was best for my D14 and the rest will be easy.Not sure where my W came up with me living in the home until my D was 18 came from (I'm guessing her father)and I wouldn't be asking for anything like my W's retirement which isn't a lot because she had agreed to my getting the house. All that has changed and now he needs to know if I am going for full custody and can't wait because my W has pushed forward way sooner than expected. His office just called and I really need to get back but I haven't spoken to my D yet. It will have to be tonight for sure.
I know I must be careful not to do anything out of spite and I really don't think I am. I just need to push for so much more than I had thought and that [censored]! Thanks LT! I will keep a level head through this!
