I can't really give any advice as I don't know the correct answers or how any of this plays out. I just wanted to let you know my situation is very similar and I took a bit of solace in reading your story and knowing I'm not alone out here.
Me 28 W 27 T 10 M 2 No kids (fertility issues - mine) Bomb 7/20/2014 - EA Confirmed W moved out 9/15/14 W dating OM 11/22/14