At this point it is business and you have to have your attorney be the bad guy. You cannot allow nice to interfere. I have had to deal with this in my recent past and this is what I suggest. You need to seek full custody with child support, seek alimony from your wife, seek full possession of the house. if you go for the whole thing you then have room to negotiate downward. The last thing they will expect is you seeking support from your wife. I would also look into seeking compensation from your wife for the grievous harm you suffered due to the vasectomy you suffered through after she indicated she was not going to separate or divorce you in the near future. See if your L can get a statement from your doctor indicating her response to this question. I know it sound counter to everything you want. remember, she is and will walk all over you.
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