I know, detach, detach, detach....I can't!!! Aaaauuuuggghhh!
Yes, you CAN.
Center yourself Ats. Find that quiet spot inside that is SEPARATE from him.
When we are hurt and rejected so deeply, we tend to give the abusers a lot of power. Look at him for who he really is today. He is NO PRIZE.
He would be lucky to have you in his life after the stunts he has pulled. Look at him with realistic eyes...the good and the bad. Write it down if you have to.
Be there for yourself, comfort yourself, tell yourself that you are not allowing this man to pull your puppet strings...reassure yourself. If you have to step away and go no contact, then so be it. YOU COME FIRST.
I promise...by taking a step away from him, or two or three, you will NOT influence his MLC in any way.
You can always say, "I appreciate your interest in my life right now, but I need to step away and focus on me and the kids. Unless it's an emergency, please give me some space for a few days, a week, a year, a decade...whatever..."
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
