Wife dropped the bomb; doing in house separation

[HopeTex]

Thanks for the thoughts RockJC. I guess I am in a slightly different situation. We are still living under the same roof, but she has been the "stay-at-home-home mom" for 7 years and I have been the "working husband." And that situation continues for now.

So I have a good bit of flexibility to do things during the day and after work when I choose. Typically I am planning things to do out of the house one or two evenings each workweek. The other evenings I am home having dinner with wife and the kids, helping put them to bed, etc. After kids go down I might visit briefly with W if she seems to want to chat, but pretty soon if she is not initiating conversation I head to bed. Last night we sat together for about an hour folding laundry and watching TV. Not much conversation.

W will occasionally plan something to do in the evenings like go out with friends, go to bible study, etc. but not as often as I do. I would guess this is just because she is fairly comfortable (and worn out) in her life as mom, maybe it is a good thing that she isn't out trying to desperately GAL, if she was I'm not sure if that would be a good or bad sign in terms of the prospects for our M. Who knows.

She hasn't reacted at all to my scheduling the thee day trip to the resort with the kids (which will occur after she returns from her trip with the kids to Denver). We communicated by text about my trip with the kids, no in-person conversations. I wonder if she feels as sad about our separate vacations as I do....