If you have non-negotiables, you have non-negotiables. I don't see that discussing them with him is necessary. But maybe it is.

I asked the question on Claire's thread, if he dates does that mean you file?

What do you mean by protecting your kids' and your stability?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss