The old me pushed in a demanding way but ultimately took whatever he dished out.
The new me is trying to lay limits to what I will take. I'm trying to be more honest with him and to understand him better. Before we were always quiet or I was whining, nagging, or hollering in an attempt to be heard.
Since I will have the opportunity to backtrack when we have the conversation in person, how can I be true to myself and protect the kids' & my stability without pushing him about this issue?
Yes, he stays, he goes, I'm fine either way. However, I want some time to adapt to things before I have to make moves (I'm still very concerned about losing the house). That's what asking to slow down on the legal separation is about. And I like the current level of friendly interaction that doesn't demand a whole lot of me, but I do worry about letting myself get more invested him him. If he starts dating I know for certain I will withdraw because I'm not going to react the way he did with OW.
I've taken a lot from several different directions. I'd like to stop TAKING things.
Last edited by Maybell; 08/12/1402:27 PM.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
