Talk to your lawyer to get correct answers about your daughter. Everyone else can conjecture, but your lawyer will be able to tell your what is most likely to happen.
In most states I believe that by their mid teens kids can express where they want to live and it will carry weight with the court. You can also seek to have a lawyer appointed to represent your daughter and her best interests. You may also seek some evaluation to see if your wifes depression can affect her ability to be a responsible parent. All of this will take your lawyers help.
Until you get accurate answers, you will just be going around in a circle jerk getting yourself all worked up. Get your lawyer going, sit back and take a deep breath and find something to do for yourself. You can't fix this, you just have to do what is right and see where things fall. Be the best father you can be for your daughter and things will work out. Take this from someone who lost his daughters for a while and now has them back in his life full time.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"
