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Questions/random thoughts:
1. I feel dreadful about the news about his brother's bub. We weren't super close but I would have wanted them to know that I was thinking about them and wishing them well. Thoughts on whether to contact them? (No one from his family have been in touch with me since we split…but then he's not that close with his family and I'm not that sure what he's told them).
2. In reading DR, I never did get a sense of whether it was good/bad/otherwise to let spouse know what we want (i.e that we want to work on our marriages). I've maintained NC for a good 2 months now so I don't think I am overdoing the pursuing thing. Should we make our position known to separated spouse while DB or no?
3. H did not offer up much opinion/feelings in which case it is hard to validate. It's like I have to ask a question so that he shares an opinion/feeling (but I'm weary of that since I know he sometimes gets annoyed when I ask questions). It almost would have been easier for him to announce that he wanted a divorce because then I could have said "that's not what I want, but I know you have been unhappy for a long time so I can see why you might feel that way" (note D for was not mentioned…but we need to be separated for 12 months before we can file here).
4. I'm assuming next step is more NC and GAL. I'm doing fine on those fronts. I can move on if I have to…but I'm not sure that this current approach is taking the R in the direction that I want. H seems sad…seems to recognize that I am happy and doing well…but currently wants to continue down path of separation. Is there something else I can throw into the mix? (More patience is probably they obvious answer).