And as for my parents...they didn't kiss, hug, adore, or fawn for as long as I've known them. They are more affectionate now as retirees, but growing up they either screamed at each other or didn't talk to each other. I grew up in an abusive, alcoholic home. My behavior as an adult is classic Adult Child of an Alcoholic stuff.
And I see a very good therapist to talk all this stuff out. I'm not entirely comfortable getting "group psycho-analyzed" here unless people are sharing their own experiences and not just analyzing mine...if you know what I mean.
We are not trying to "pschoanalyze" you. Rather, we are trying to be supportive to you by asking you some questions that we hope to lead you toward more self-awareness and how it impacts your relationship with your W...especially women in general.
I suspect that the discomfort you're feeling right now is that we are pretty close to the truth here and you want to deflect it away from you. If we don't ask the "right" questions, how can we help you become a better man that has the potential to be a sold husband material?
It does not mean that we are disrespecting you at all. We hope that you've take this to heart and bring those questions/issues to your IC. Not it only benefits YOU but your future R too (whether it is with your current W or some other future wife).
