Sorry you are here again. But it IS the best place to be, for a gross situation.
I noticed a few things. All along this thread (I mean going back to Feb, not the one 10 years ago) you have repeatedly said things like
"I know I should do X or Y, BUT"...and then within days, you say it again about some other DB step. Honey you have to WORK the Program for the Program to WORK.
I hate wondering if this ^^ same old approach of
"can't change b/c I don't know how"...and so I won't bother learning...
is the same approach you took when you came here 10 years ago??
Well, You are NOT POWERLESS.
If you had been a perfect wife in a regular marriage (NOT a long distance one), then it would be a hopeless situation b/c what can a woman who is already perfect, DO to help her m?
NOT MUCH...fortunately you are part of our "flawed humans" group and we all have things to work on.
I think your depression has seeped into your behavior (causing so much of it, esp the "stuck"ness you are exuding). Are you getting treated for it?
LOVE YOURSELF and if need be, change into a person you will love. I think you must GAL Much Much more and take charge of your life as you say you are ready to do. GAL is not about being selfish or unhealthy.
I'm talking healthy self respect and the ability to overcome inertia.
That^^ (overcoming inertia) is what I'd suggest as your specific 180 goal #1.
Stop, stopping yourself from MOVING in any direction.
I hope you will watch 2 videos about 20 min each. They are about our way of THINKING and how it can change and why that matters A LOT.
They are from the 2012 TED TALKs videos; one by Amy Cuddy and the other Shawn Achor, about "Faking it til you Become it" and "The Power of Positivity", respectively.
They have great data to back up their video claims (only 20 min) about how we can create a different future for ourselves by acting differently NOW...
Food for thought!
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